Letting your children discover who they are not what we want them to be.

Everyday I think we learn something new  when it comes to raising our children. As a parent we want the best for our children. We have to be careful though as to no live through our children. I think parents have the best intentions and may not realize that what they are doing is affecting their children negatively.

Having certain expectations is necessary. I am  talking about putting unnecessary pressure on your kids because of what you want as a parent or because you did not accomplish or do something as a child.

We have to let our kids become their own people with their own likes, dislikes, goals, etc.

Just  because we may not agree with, like, share the same thoughts, etc. If you want to have a healthy relationship with your children then we must accept this. I want my kids to come to me for advise, if there is a problem, whatever it may be. I want them to know that no matter what it is, no matter how bad it may be. I will always be there for them. The good the bad the ugly. We are the one person in their life that should and will have their backs forever. This does not mean that we will not be disappointed, etc. It simply means that we love them unconditionally.

I was prompted to write this because my son came to me and told me that a friend at school came in  and his head had been shaved.  I asked him why-he proceeded to tell me that his friend would not fight back against another kid. When this kids parent found out that he would not fight back and lost the fight-that was his punishment-Shaved his head. I was absolutely horrified by this and so was my son.

I do not understand the ignorance of people.

 

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