Dinner without devices

Traditional family dinners has morphed into families sitting at the dinner table with their faces glued to their phones.  In my family we have made it a rule that there are no devices at the dinner table. In our busy schedules it’s easy to lose sight of how important that is.

When this was first implemented in my family there was slight resistance. Today it is not even a question.  Dinner is a small amount of time in our day that we can remove ourselves from outside influences and distractions. It allows us to talk to each other about the day, tomorrow, something funny, etc. It really does not matter the content. The point is we are focused on each other.

As a working mom who manages businesses I can tell you if the world falls apart in 1or 2 hours  because you do not take a phone call while having dinner with your family, something is seriously wrong. I do not pretend to be perfect either, I have answered calls while at dinner only to have my children give me the LOOK.  Which I appreciate because it tells me they appreciate the no device policy.

Value the time we spend together and remember everything else can wait.  Family time is the most important time.

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Negativity on social media.

My rant of the day. In today’s age of social media everywhere we are able to express ourselves, opinions, etc. which I think is wonderful. That being said when kids are involved I do not think any adult(especially a family member) should post negative comments on that child’s social media. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but do not impose or make a child feel bad by your negativity or closed mindedness. 

I like to think that I am a very calm constructive person. I do not engage in drama, negativity, or any of the such.. BUT when it involves a child it become very difficult for me to bite my tongue! 

Be kind, be positive, put yourself in the other persons shoes and love each other that’s all 😁

Learning Todays Slang

I am 37, every generation, every state, region, country has their own slang. The things I learn from my kids is facinating. Of course when I use certain slang they look at me like I am crazy, I suppose I do the same to them.  It is very educational and interesting with this generation. I would recommend any parent getting familiar with slang of this generation.  There are words, emojis, etc. that represent something  completely different than what they actually mean. I am thankful that I have a very close/open relationship with my kids that they share these things with me. Being able to connect and undersand what your kids are talking about in the electronic world can give you insight and can open doors to conversation and connecting with your kids.

 

Why Not?

Although a huge portion of my life is very structured and scheduled I am a very spontaneous person. I like doing things on the fly. Randomly waking up on the weekend and thinking, hmm what are we going to do today. Deciding to travel 2hrs away to go to a state park and explore. My kids ask me WHY… My Response.. WHY NOT..

Letting your children discover who they are not what we want them to be.

Everyday I think we learn something new  when it comes to raising our children. As a parent we want the best for our children. We have to be careful though as to no live through our children. I think parents have the best intentions and may not realize that what they are doing is affecting their children negatively.

Having certain expectations is necessary. I am  talking about putting unnecessary pressure on your kids because of what you want as a parent or because you did not accomplish or do something as a child.

We have to let our kids become their own people with their own likes, dislikes, goals, etc.

Just  because we may not agree with, like, share the same thoughts, etc. If you want to have a healthy relationship with your children then we must accept this. I want my kids to come to me for advise, if there is a problem, whatever it may be. I want them to know that no matter what it is, no matter how bad it may be. I will always be there for them. The good the bad the ugly. We are the one person in their life that should and will have their backs forever. This does not mean that we will not be disappointed, etc. It simply means that we love them unconditionally.

I was prompted to write this because my son came to me and told me that a friend at school came in  and his head had been shaved.  I asked him why-he proceeded to tell me that his friend would not fight back against another kid. When this kids parent found out that he would not fight back and lost the fight-that was his punishment-Shaved his head. I was absolutely horrified by this and so was my son.

I do not understand the ignorance of people.