With all that has been transpiring in our country and school systems for quite some time now, its time for all of us to find our voices. As a mother of teenagers it is very difficult to see my children struggle with anxieties and fears when at school. School should be a place for our children to feel safe and to learn. Schools have become a place of uncertainty and as parents, administrators, teachers and government we must work together to repair and resolve our systems.
What is the definition of Character–“the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual.” A persons character is what is recognized and remembered. In the society we live today I fell as if this is something people do not value or teach. We live in a very selfish and self serving world. I get disappointed and discouraged everyday by people’s selfishness. I do not let it effect me negatively. I use it as a tool to teach my children that our actions, words, etc. reflects our character.
I have a very strong code of morals, values, character and I want my children to learn this and have these as well. It’s the simplest of things like holding the door for others, saying thank you, smiling, allowing someone else to go ahead of you in the line when you have a whole cart of stuff and they have two items. To me this is just common courtesy something you do not see a whole lot of today. Thses actions reflect your character and it’s possible that someone seeing these actions will question their own character and maybe will influence them to make better choices in they ways that they project their character.
Final thought–The little things we do in life can have the biggest impacts.
As a parent of a child that was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 4 I can tell you it was not easy. Those letters come with such a stigma, it is actually pretty sad. My son will be 13 in 9 days. It is fascinating to think about and see the changes and struggles we have been through these last few years. He has had teachers that have been awesome in working with us and then we have had teachers that have wanted to put him in what they call “SPECIAL CLASS”.
These children are extremely intelligent, funny and bursting with energy that we all wish we had. It is easy as a parent to become very impatient with learning how to manage the challenges. Be careful not to flood these children with negativity as this can be very detrimental. Learn what works and what doesn’t. Encourage them to face their challenges and not make excuses for themselves.
Traditional family dinners has morphed into families sitting at the dinner table with their faces glued to their phones. In my family we have made it a rule that there are no devices at the dinner table. In our busy schedules it’s easy to lose sight of how important that is.
When this was first implemented in my family there was slight resistance. Today it is not even a question. Dinner is a small amount of time in our day that we can remove ourselves from outside influences and distractions. It allows us to talk to each other about the day, tomorrow, something funny, etc. It really does not matter the content. The point is we are focused on each other.
As a working mom who manages businesses I can tell you if the world falls apart in 1or 2 hours because you do not take a phone call while having dinner with your family, something is seriously wrong. I do not pretend to be perfect either, I have answered calls while at dinner only to have my children give me the LOOK. Which I appreciate because it tells me they appreciate the no device policy.
Value the time we spend together and remember everything else can wait. Family time is the most important time.
My rant of the day. In today’s age of social media everywhere we are able to express ourselves, opinions, etc. which I think is wonderful. That being said when kids are involved I do not think any adult(especially a family member) should post negative comments on that child’s social media. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but do not impose or make a child feel bad by your negativity or closed mindedness.
I like to think that I am a very calm constructive person. I do not engage in drama, negativity, or any of the such.. BUT when it involves a child it become very difficult for me to bite my tongue!
Be kind, be positive, put yourself in the other persons shoes and love each other that’s all 😁