Taking in the Beauty of an old oak tree

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Character

What is the definition of Character–“the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual.”  A persons character is what is recognized and remembered.  In the society we live today I fell as if this is something people do not value or teach.  We live in a very selfish and self serving world.  I get disappointed and discouraged everyday by people’s selfishness.  I do not let it effect me negatively. I use it as a tool to teach my children  that our actions, words, etc. reflects our character.

I have a very strong code of morals, values, character and I want my children to learn this and have these as well.  It’s the simplest of things like holding the door for others,  saying thank you, smiling, allowing someone else to go ahead of you in the line when you have a whole cart of stuff and they have two items. To me this is just common courtesy  something you do not see a whole lot of today.  Thses actions reflect your character and it’s possible that someone seeing these actions will question their own character and maybe will influence them to make better choices in they ways that they project their character.

Final thought–The little things we do in life can have the biggest impacts.

 

 

Embracing ADHD

As a parent of a child that was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 4 I can tell you it was not easy. Those letters come with such a stigma, it is actually pretty sad. My son will be 13 in 9 days. It is fascinating to think about and see the changes and struggles we have been through these last few years. He has had teachers that have been awesome in working with us and then we have had teachers that have wanted to put him in what they call “SPECIAL CLASS”.

These children are extremely intelligent, funny and bursting with energy that we all wish we had. It is easy as a parent to become very impatient with learning how to manage the challenges. Be careful not to flood these children with negativity as this can be very detrimental. Learn what works and what doesn’t. Encourage them to face their challenges and not make excuses for themselves.

Dinner without devices

Traditional family dinners has morphed into families sitting at the dinner table with their faces glued to their phones.  In my family we have made it a rule that there are no devices at the dinner table. In our busy schedules it’s easy to lose sight of how important that is.

When this was first implemented in my family there was slight resistance. Today it is not even a question.  Dinner is a small amount of time in our day that we can remove ourselves from outside influences and distractions. It allows us to talk to each other about the day, tomorrow, something funny, etc. It really does not matter the content. The point is we are focused on each other.

As a working mom who manages businesses I can tell you if the world falls apart in 1or 2 hours  because you do not take a phone call while having dinner with your family, something is seriously wrong. I do not pretend to be perfect either, I have answered calls while at dinner only to have my children give me the LOOK.  Which I appreciate because it tells me they appreciate the no device policy.

Value the time we spend together and remember everything else can wait.  Family time is the most important time.

Learning Todays Slang

I am 37, every generation, every state, region, country has their own slang. The things I learn from my kids is facinating. Of course when I use certain slang they look at me like I am crazy, I suppose I do the same to them.  It is very educational and interesting with this generation. I would recommend any parent getting familiar with slang of this generation.  There are words, emojis, etc. that represent something  completely different than what they actually mean. I am thankful that I have a very close/open relationship with my kids that they share these things with me. Being able to connect and undersand what your kids are talking about in the electronic world can give you insight and can open doors to conversation and connecting with your kids.

 

Why Not?

Although a huge portion of my life is very structured and scheduled I am a very spontaneous person. I like doing things on the fly. Randomly waking up on the weekend and thinking, hmm what are we going to do today. Deciding to travel 2hrs away to go to a state park and explore. My kids ask me WHY… My Response.. WHY NOT..

Letting your children discover who they are not what we want them to be.

Everyday I think we learn something new  when it comes to raising our children. As a parent we want the best for our children. We have to be careful though as to no live through our children. I think parents have the best intentions and may not realize that what they are doing is affecting their children negatively.

Having certain expectations is necessary. I am  talking about putting unnecessary pressure on your kids because of what you want as a parent or because you did not accomplish or do something as a child.

We have to let our kids become their own people with their own likes, dislikes, goals, etc.

Just  because we may not agree with, like, share the same thoughts, etc. If you want to have a healthy relationship with your children then we must accept this. I want my kids to come to me for advise, if there is a problem, whatever it may be. I want them to know that no matter what it is, no matter how bad it may be. I will always be there for them. The good the bad the ugly. We are the one person in their life that should and will have their backs forever. This does not mean that we will not be disappointed, etc. It simply means that we love them unconditionally.

I was prompted to write this because my son came to me and told me that a friend at school came in  and his head had been shaved.  I asked him why-he proceeded to tell me that his friend would not fight back against another kid. When this kids parent found out that he would not fight back and lost the fight-that was his punishment-Shaved his head. I was absolutely horrified by this and so was my son.

I do not understand the ignorance of people.