Character

What is the definition of Character–“the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual.”  A persons character is what is recognized and remembered.  In the society we live today I fell as if this is something people do not value or teach.  We live in a very selfish and self serving world.  I get disappointed and discouraged everyday by people’s selfishness.  I do not let it effect me negatively. I use it as a tool to teach my children  that our actions, words, etc. reflects our character.

I have a very strong code of morals, values, character and I want my children to learn this and have these as well.  It’s the simplest of things like holding the door for others,  saying thank you, smiling, allowing someone else to go ahead of you in the line when you have a whole cart of stuff and they have two items. To me this is just common courtesy  something you do not see a whole lot of today.  Thses actions reflect your character and it’s possible that someone seeing these actions will question their own character and maybe will influence them to make better choices in they ways that they project their character.

Final thought–The little things we do in life can have the biggest impacts.

 

 

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Embracing ADHD

As a parent of a child that was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 4 I can tell you it was not easy. Those letters come with such a stigma, it is actually pretty sad. My son will be 13 in 9 days. It is fascinating to think about and see the changes and struggles we have been through these last few years. He has had teachers that have been awesome in working with us and then we have had teachers that have wanted to put him in what they call “SPECIAL CLASS”.

These children are extremely intelligent, funny and bursting with energy that we all wish we had. It is easy as a parent to become very impatient with learning how to manage the challenges. Be careful not to flood these children with negativity as this can be very detrimental. Learn what works and what doesn’t. Encourage them to face their challenges and not make excuses for themselves.

Learning Todays Slang

I am 37, every generation, every state, region, country has their own slang. The things I learn from my kids is facinating. Of course when I use certain slang they look at me like I am crazy, I suppose I do the same to them.  It is very educational and interesting with this generation. I would recommend any parent getting familiar with slang of this generation.  There are words, emojis, etc. that represent something  completely different than what they actually mean. I am thankful that I have a very close/open relationship with my kids that they share these things with me. Being able to connect and undersand what your kids are talking about in the electronic world can give you insight and can open doors to conversation and connecting with your kids.

 

Letting your children discover who they are not what we want them to be.

Everyday I think we learn something new  when it comes to raising our children. As a parent we want the best for our children. We have to be careful though as to no live through our children. I think parents have the best intentions and may not realize that what they are doing is affecting their children negatively.

Having certain expectations is necessary. I am  talking about putting unnecessary pressure on your kids because of what you want as a parent or because you did not accomplish or do something as a child.

We have to let our kids become their own people with their own likes, dislikes, goals, etc.

Just  because we may not agree with, like, share the same thoughts, etc. If you want to have a healthy relationship with your children then we must accept this. I want my kids to come to me for advise, if there is a problem, whatever it may be. I want them to know that no matter what it is, no matter how bad it may be. I will always be there for them. The good the bad the ugly. We are the one person in their life that should and will have their backs forever. This does not mean that we will not be disappointed, etc. It simply means that we love them unconditionally.

I was prompted to write this because my son came to me and told me that a friend at school came in  and his head had been shaved.  I asked him why-he proceeded to tell me that his friend would not fight back against another kid. When this kids parent found out that he would not fight back and lost the fight-that was his punishment-Shaved his head. I was absolutely horrified by this and so was my son.

I do not understand the ignorance of people.

 

Working Moms

As a full time working mom I know that we feel like overworked, unappreciated slaves at times. Stay at home moms fell this as well but are less likely to think about that because they are in a position where they do not have to work (outside of the home). They have the privilege of being able to stay home and take care of their children. Let me be clear though, being a mom is a full time job in itself. I personally have been a stay and home mom and now I am a full time working mom. I understand both sides and the daily challenges of each.

From my personal experiences I know that we as moms often do not talk about these things as we feel that we will be judged. I am here to say speak, say what you want to say. The things that we all as moms think, the majority does as well, they  are just not spoken. I too use to feel that way as well until I woke up one day looked at myself in the mirror and said I love being a mom but being a mom does not have to mean that you lose who you are. It does not mean that your not important or that what you think and say makes you any less