With all that has been transpiring in our country and school systems for quite some time now, its time for all of us to find our voices. As a mother of teenagers it is very difficult to see my children struggle with anxieties and fears when at school. School should be a place for our children to feel safe and to learn. Schools have become a place of uncertainty and as parents, administrators, teachers and government we must work together to repair and resolve our systems.
As I watch all of the events unfolding around the world it is becoming evident that the world is in a negative place. We are all constantly reminded of all the negativity going on when we turn on the radio or the television. That is 95% of what is reported and talked about.
What if we could turn on the television or radio and hear 95% of positive news. reporting about people helping people and saving lives. Stories about the unique cultures around the world and what those cultures teach and cultivate among people. I wonder if people could view things differently.
One thing I know for certain, we have a choice as to what we choose to surround ourselves with and how as individuals we are our own inventors. I choose light and my hope is that one day everyone will.
As a parent of a child that was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 4 I can tell you it was not easy. Those letters come with such a stigma, it is actually pretty sad. My son will be 13 in 9 days. It is fascinating to think about and see the changes and struggles we have been through these last few years. He has had teachers that have been awesome in working with us and then we have had teachers that have wanted to put him in what they call “SPECIAL CLASS”.
These children are extremely intelligent, funny and bursting with energy that we all wish we had. It is easy as a parent to become very impatient with learning how to manage the challenges. Be careful not to flood these children with negativity as this can be very detrimental. Learn what works and what doesn’t. Encourage them to face their challenges and not make excuses for themselves.
I am 37, every generation, every state, region, country has their own slang. The things I learn from my kids is facinating. Of course when I use certain slang they look at me like I am crazy, I suppose I do the same to them. It is very educational and interesting with this generation. I would recommend any parent getting familiar with slang of this generation. There are words, emojis, etc. that represent something completely different than what they actually mean. I am thankful that I have a very close/open relationship with my kids that they share these things with me. Being able to connect and undersand what your kids are talking about in the electronic world can give you insight and can open doors to conversation and connecting with your kids.
Although a huge portion of my life is very structured and scheduled I am a very spontaneous person. I like doing things on the fly. Randomly waking up on the weekend and thinking, hmm what are we going to do today. Deciding to travel 2hrs away to go to a state park and explore. My kids ask me WHY… My Response.. WHY NOT..
Everyday I think we learn something new when it comes to raising our children. As a parent we want the best for our children. We have to be careful though as to no live through our children. I think parents have the best intentions and may not realize that what they are doing is affecting their children negatively.
Having certain expectations is necessary. I am talking about putting unnecessary pressure on your kids because of what you want as a parent or because you did not accomplish or do something as a child.
We have to let our kids become their own people with their own likes, dislikes, goals, etc.
Just because we may not agree with, like, share the same thoughts, etc. If you want to have a healthy relationship with your children then we must accept this. I want my kids to come to me for advise, if there is a problem, whatever it may be. I want them to know that no matter what it is, no matter how bad it may be. I will always be there for them. The good the bad the ugly. We are the one person in their life that should and will have their backs forever. This does not mean that we will not be disappointed, etc. It simply means that we love them unconditionally.
I was prompted to write this because my son came to me and told me that a friend at school came in and his head had been shaved. I asked him why-he proceeded to tell me that his friend would not fight back against another kid. When this kids parent found out that he would not fight back and lost the fight-that was his punishment-Shaved his head. I was absolutely horrified by this and so was my son.
I do not understand the ignorance of people.
So I wake up at 5 am everyday, have a cup of coffee and watch the news until 5:30 am. I take a shower and prepare for the day. I manage (2) companies which is 99.5% male dominated. At times I feel like I have 15 more kids to take care of. (HAHA) My son does not have to be at school until 9 am. My daughter is a junior in HS, she drives, is very responsible and independent. She also gets up at 5 am. School for her starts at 7 am. From 6:30 until 8:30 I work on my laptop in my kitchen getting the day started for the businesses. I wake my son up at 7:30 am which is not an easy task. I take multiple phone calls and make multiple phone calls daily during this time to ensure the instructions I have given at work are followed through with. At this same time I am making sure my son has showered, completed his normal hygiene requirements.(why is it so hard to get a 12 yr old to brush his teeth and put deodorant on?). At 8:30 i leave to get my son to school which is a 30 min. drive from home. During this time I would say 15 min of that is spent on the phone dealing with work issues. Sometimes I even ignore the calls so I can talk with my son about the school day ahead or random things. I then feel anxious to return those calls to ensure things are handled properly. Most of the time that in itself annoys me.
Due to traffic I generally get to the office by 10 am. It is busy ALL day mainly because I deal with incompetent people or maybe they are just lazy. That is a whole other subject though! I leave the office between 4-4:30 pm to go pick up my son from school. I leave this early to avoid sitting in traffic for hours. I generally get home between 5:30-6. Its almost like your day is just starting though. What am I going to make for dinner, need to make sure homework is completed, are there after school events that I need to get to, how many loads of laundry do I need to do, etc.
The struggle is real!-Working Moms REALLY are SUPER.